Nurse Mo, At Your Cervix | 7 Things Y'all Didn't Tell Me About L&D

HI ATBM FAMILY!

I briefly mentioned in my Happy New Year Post (missed it? check it out here!) that I began working as a registered nurse in Labor & Delivery on night shift! To be honest, this is one of the most interesting and fulfilling positions I’ve had and I’m grateful for it.

Now, while I love this position, y’all didn’t fill me on A LOT lol. The things I know currently, I have learned from my few months on the job as well as from awesome preceptors. What didn’t I know? Here we go:

  1. Checking a cervix is actually kinda hard the first few go-rounds. Shoutout to Nurse Miracle, a fellow L&D friend, that assisted me lol. As a visual learner, I spent my first month on the job searching Google on techniques because ya girl was struggling. I’ll spare you the details lol.

  2. Contrary to what’s shown on TV, moms and families (for the most part) are actually pretty sweet during their labor. My shifts are usually filled with moments of tears and plenty of laughter but never anger or aggression towards the staff.

  3. EAT WHEN YOU CAN. Working nights, I found it a little tricky to eat at the right time. When I started my shift at 7 pm, I wasn’t hungry and would try to push it to 9 pm. It seems like rightttttttt when I get to the break room to bite into my sandwich, I start receiving all types of calls lol. Feeding is important to be able to have the energy to serve others- take the opportunity when you can.

  4. Shifts are either really slow or too fast for you to keep up! The intricacy of L&D is due to the fact that you don’t control that baby in that womb. They come on their own schedule and I simply work around them lol. I’ve had shifts when nothing but supportive measures were done (ie: “Can you bring me ice chips? can I get a warm blanket?”). I’ve also had shifts when things accelerated swiftly (ie: emergency c-sections and surprise twins).

  5. The teamwork dynamic is BEAUTIFUL! Delivering a baby is ALL HANDS ON DECK. Babies do as they please (see #3) and often times, your co-worker’s assistance is needed! Sometimes it’s calling a physician for me and other times, it’s heading to the medication dispensing machine to pull anti-nausea medication for a patient that’s already vomiting on the blanket you just brought :)

  6. Charting every 15 minutes is a whole job on it’s own! Charting in general is probably my least favorite part of the job but by far, the most important aspect. Staying caught up on charting during my first month was rough lol. However, these days, I’m able to leave on time by making sure that I don’t slack off and chart when I’m supposed to!

  7. 5 AM is that golden hour when I start seeing stars… lol. I genuinely thought staying up all night would be a piece of cake like back when I was in middle school.. but these days? i feel like a grandma lol. Walking the unit and laughing with new friends to stay awake is KEY. Who needs sleep anyways?

The one thing I was ACTUALLY prepared for is this- Birth is one of the most BEAUTIFUL things I have the pleasure of seeing on daily. One of my favorite bible verses is Ecclesiastes 11:5 (NIV):

As you do not know the path of the wind,
    or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb,
so you cannot understand the work of God,
    the Maker of all things.

God indeed is a Maker of beautiful things and a Giver of the best gifts. It’s an honor to shout “Happy Birthday” to the future leaders of the world. If it wasn’t obvious enough, I’m enjoying my time as an L&D nurse and looking forward to as many experiences as the speciality will afford me.

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-Nurse Mo 😝

28 Days Into 2019... Happy New Year

Growing up, one of my pet peeves was still being told “HAPPY NEW YEAR!” three, even four weeks into January. It seemed to me that this was just a Nigerian way of greeting lol. According to my mom, saying Happy New Year is befitting if it’s the first time you’re seeing or speaking to someone in the year. So.. moms are never wrong, right? lol. As the first official post in 2019, I must say Happy New Year to each of my readers. Shout out to every single subscriber - new and old - that continues to come along for the ATBM ride.

The word of today is Transparency. It’s been 3 months since my last post and here we are. A whole 3 months. In the last 3 months, I completed my first semester of my Master’s in Nursing at Emory and started my 2nd, began my job as a Labor and Delivery nurse, and have been planning, alongside my handsome fiancé, an entire wedding. The days honestly just fly by. And to be quite frank, I’m tired lol. In wanting to provide the best content possible, I consistently found a reason to push back writing and posting.

“How can I write a post without photos?”

“I haven’t even done any artsy, creative stuff lately.”

“My readers have probably moved along by now.”

“I said I’d post once a month…..lol”

Between the 292181290 activities and the ever mounting to-do list, blogging just didn’t make the cut and it sucked. Not because I didn’t want to but because I had to learn that I’m not a super woman. Often times, we try to fit a billion things in one day and we beat ourselves up when we don’t accomplish them.

Yes, this is a post without photos. However, it is a post that is pushing me towards consistency. It’s a post that holds me accountable to the thing that I love the most- writing and interacting (albeit virtually) with people. Do not give up on that which you love. The circumstances may not be right… but then again, when will they ever be 100% right? Do what you love without thinking twice about it. Follow through with your goals, aspirations, and plans. They’re so worth it.

My birthday is Saturday and I’m beginning to get excited! Want to celebrate with me? On 2/2, share your favorite ATBM post on your social media! Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and tag me! I’d love to see what your faves are. Until then, pursue that which you love and do it for the glory of God (Col. 3:17).

Happy New Year, Family.

Hey Mo! Series | The ForrealForreal Come to Jesus Moment

I got the idea of a series called “Hey Mo!” where readers, Instagram followers, and friends of ATBM could submit questions on any topic and my answer would be turned into candid open letters! It’s a perfect way to share what I see as beautiful stories while opening the door for an open forum!


This week, I got a couple of questions that I decided to combine! I’ll be talking on all things faith! Ready, Set, Go!


Question: What has your faith journey been like?

I spoke a teeny weeny bit about my official come to Jesus moment in a summer post, “The Resounding Yes | #TheAbereLoveStory” (missed it? click here to read). I say “official” moment because prior to being baptized on July 20th, 2014, I had a stretch of time where I hadn’t kept my word to God. I had attended youth conference after youth conference and had learned to speak Christianese… just enough to not make me look like a heathen lol. In order words, I wasn’t saved saved. Y’all know what I mean lol. I had grown up in church, the child of a devoted servant of Christ and hadn’t quite grasped what it meant to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

I think many of us go through similar periods and we end up in a tug-of-war — God vs. the world. The things of the world look good, seem fun and despite knowing we shouldn’t, we indulge in them anyways. It’s kinda like McDonalds fries. Year after year, we hear reports about McDs not being good for us blah blah blah.. and when no one’s looking, YOU pull into the drive thru-craving it (I had to say you because I don’t do McDonalds anymore lololol). Psalms 34:8 says, “Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good.” You can’t desire steak, garri/eba, or filet mignon (all the finer things in life… see what I did there?) and still be munching on trash.

For me, I had to decide that I really really REALLY wanted to taste of the Lord’s goodness for myself. If I’m being honest, that meant removing myself from a seven-year romantic relationship, cutting out clubbing and drinking, and seeking God to clean up the mess I’d made of my spiritual life. The beautiful thing about God is He’s ready to meet you EXACTLY where you are. My faith journey is just that.. a journey. One that continues to be a winding road full of challenges. Even with that, my faith has grown in unimaginable ways and I’m feasting on all the steak I want in the Kingdom of God.

Question: How do you stay grounded in the Word continuously when life happens?

I remember that I was never promised a life full of smooth-sailing. 1 Corinthians 4:8-10 says, “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” If anything, after reading verses like that, I’m encouraged to see what else the Bible has to say about my tough times. I’m super grateful for my community that also helps me to stay in the Word. When I feel too discouraged to pick up my Word, I have sooo many brothers and sisters in Christ that pour into me. What’s your tribe looking like?

Question: What devotionals have helped you in your relationship with God? Which ones do you study or recommend?
When I first came to Christ, the devotional “Our Daily Bread” was literally EVERYTHING! I was fortunate enough to receive them for free from my church. These days, I’m sure you can download the app. There’s literally an app for everything. I’d suggest ODB for anyone who is unsure of where/how to start reading the Bible. As I grew in my faith, I realized I needed a little more depth and began reading devotions from the YouVersion Bible app. I recommend buying a studying Bible and using that in conjunction with a devotion of your choosing. But don’t forget, nothing replaces the Word of God. Starting from the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) is never a bad idea.

FunFact: Bethel Campus Fellowship (BFC) now has an online devotional that I’d love for you to check out- click here.


At whichever stage you find yourself in this journey towards Christ, Keep Moving Forward! Thanks for your question, Reader! (I’ll Venmo $5 to the first person to respond with the name of that movie reference! One of my faveeeees).

Enjoying this series and interested in keeping it going? Leave a comment or submit a question via the Hey Mo! submission page. www.astoldbymoyo.com/heymo ❤️If you’ve sent one in, I see it! Check back in every Friday to see yours get answered!

Hey Mo! Series | Adjusting to Life After My Dad's Passing

Hey Y’all! I got the idea of a series called “Hey Mo!” where readers, Instagram followers, and friends of ATBM could submit questions on any topic and my answer would be turned into candid open letters! Since starting ATBM in December of 2015, I’ve gotten new followers and subscribers that aren’t too familiar with me. It’s a perfect way to share what I see as beautiful stories while opening the door for an open forum! With that being said, I’ll tackle the hardest question first. Here goes nothing…


Question: “If not too painful, how has life been without your dad? How you adjusted and all”


To be honest, on some (read:many) days, I still feel like I’m adjusting. I remember turning 23 and thinking, “wow, I’ve officially lived for more years without my father than I have with him.” My father passed away on December 24th, 2005 from Pancreatic Cancer after what felt like the LONGEST battle ever. I was 11 and my world pretty much broke.

However, in that season, I truly learned the importance of community. I saw my church family rise up in unimaginable ways and even up until this very moment, I’m grateful. Always will be, too. It’s definitely been rough hitting some of my life’s major milestones without him. Graduations, Birthdays, and soon-to-come… marriage.

I don’t see death as something one particularly “gets over” but rather, you learn to cope. You adjust. You have your good days, your bad days, and days when you realllllllly have to resist the urge to question God. At many points, I was angry, frustrated.. you name it, I’ve felt it. At 11, I often found myself thinking and questioning, “did I not pray hard enough or did God just feel like taking my dad away?”

Since his passing, I try to enjoy the little things that remind me of him. His infamous gold bracelet never leaves my left wrist and as long as I have my way, it won’t. I listen to Bob Marley and remember marveling at his Jamaican history lessons. I think of random facts and laugh at the fact that I got the trait of knowing a lot about what some may call “irrelevant” things lol. I hear talking drums and remember the days when the sounds of it filled my home.

Some days I get frustrated that I can’t remember his voice.. his laugh. When I feel those pits drawing near, I literally can only find solace in the Word of God–

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“Death has been swallowed up in victory. Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting? The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the Law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ!” - I Cor 15:54

I look forward to the day when we get to laugh like there’s no tomorrow. Until then, I grow. I remember the many lessons he left behind. I keep his memory alive to anyone and everyone that’ll listen lol. Side Note: It’s funny because people are usually scared to ask me anything about my dad. I guess they think I don’t want to talk about him, which couldn’t be the furthest thing from the truth lol.

To first love of my life, Abiodun Aremu Akintunde, continue to rest in peace.

Thank you for your question, reader!


Enjoying this series and interested in keeping it going? Submit a question via the Hey Mo! submission page. www.astoldbymoyo.com/heymo ❤️

The Journey to His Promise | White Coat Shawty

"Moyo, I dreamt that I saw you in a white coat. I attended your ceremony and you were so happy. Hold on to His promise." My sister-in-Christ and I sat in my car, holding such a deep conversation in the middle of a college parking lot. I wasn't quite sure when, why, or how tears started falling but if ya know me... ya just know lol. You see, the revelation of that dream held so much weight for me. It was literally God telling me, "Hey!!! I see you. Relax, dang." 

3 years later, I had the honor of officially donning my white coat as I entered into a new phase – the beginning of my Master's in Nursing. 

God has a witty way of carrying us through what seems like the wilderness, the desert, and quite frankly, the very opposite of where we want to be. Take the Israelites for example: God's own people that He had delivered from the hands of the Egyptian Pharaoh. "God did not lead them through the land of the Philistines THOUGH IT WAS THE SHORTEST ROUTE...God "led the people on the wilderness road, looping around to the Red Sea" (Exodus 13: 17-18). 

Now, here's the part we all LOVE to hold on to: God parted the Red Sea! *Insert praise break* Butttttt who's really, and I mean reallllllly ready to be taken through the wilderness?

Let's keep it real, I would never willingly volunteer for such a thing lol. I'm sure you wouldn't either. However, God knows us and gives us what we need, when we need it, exactly how we need it. He is Intentional. The same way He carried the Israelites the long way to ultimately reveal His glory is the same way He carries many of us and delivers us from own plans. And yeah, I said delivered because if OUR lives reflected our plans....? whew child, the chaos lol. 

I celebrated my white coat with joy for reaching another momentous milestone in the presence of my loved ones. I celebrated because I saw my mother beaming with pride and knew my father was doing the same. I celebrated because I've finally.. finallllllllly learned that the long way isn't the worst way, or a 2nd best way. It can be God's way and if it's God's way, I'm gucci. 

To my bruhs and suhs still holding on to a promise God, I may not be able to sit in a car with you like my dear Sena did for me. But, let this serve as the sign or reminder you were looking for that He hasn't forgotten about you. His Word tells us that "His thoughts towards us are precious and outweigh the number of grains of sand" (Psalms 139: 17-18). 

So, with all that being said, in the very near future, bring all your children to me!

Moyosore Akintunde, MSN, PNP-BC soon come. 

 

 

6 Month Protective Style Challenge | How-To & Results

2018 has been phenomenal in every area of my life and my hair growth is no exception! In January, I decided to embark on a protective style challenge. I noticed that my hair growth had become stagnant and I had to do something about it. Keeping a simple routine (for me) has been the key to growing longer, healthier hair! What exactly did that entail? 

1) I wore my hair in braids and crochet styles consecutively. Bruh.. for someone who changes their hairstyles every 3/4 weeks, this was the toughest part. 2) I increased my water intake and cared more for my insides hoping for that to be reflected on the outside. 3) I made it a point to use oils notoriously known to stimulate hair growth such as castor oil.

 

Switch Up Ya Style!

Crochet braids and Traditional Braided styles were my go to! It was super easy to maintain while managing a busy lifestyle. I LOVED being able to wake up and go. I simply slept with a satin scarf and ensured that my edges were tucked within the scarf. I install my own crochet which allows me to switch it up often! This year, I went on a limb and tried something different. Popularly known as "Lemonade Braids" , these braids were everything!!!! I literally got stopped by every black woman I know as I went about my day lol. (If you're in the metro-Atlanta area, let me know and I can refer you to some awesome braiders!)

Summertime Fine

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Guess who got a gym membership? *raises hands* My membership with Snap Fitness 24/7 was one of the best decisions I've made! I have not only become more conscious about my fitness but also been mindful of the things that I put in my body. Good (insert any word) with the body is greatly impacted by what we feed ourselves. Hair is not an exception. Drink water. Most of us don't even come close to drinking the recommended amount of 8 glasses of water a day. Take your vitamin gummies. Run. Stretch. Treat your body like you treat your hair. 

Water & Oil 

Quite often, people get protective styles such as braids and forget that hair growing from their scalp exists underneath. One of the cardinal rules of natural hair care is to care for your hair "in and out" of season. This means ensuring that your hair stays moisturized and oiled! With all of my styles, I applied a leave-in conditioner and Wild Growth and Castor oil at least twice a week to avoid dry hair. Dry hair = Brittle Hair = Breaking Hair = No Length Retention.  Different oils work for different coils. I would suggest looking into castor, wild growth, jojoba, and argan oils. 

The Proof is in the Pudding

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The photo on the left is from February 19th and the right is from May 9th. Now, y'all gotta forgive me! My length check shirt didn't come in on time so I wasn't able to get a shot of where I started at. I noticed I no longer had to break my arms to grip the ends of my hair lol. *It's also important to note that low manipulation even after you take out your protective style is key. Go easy on the heat, combing, and switching of hairstyles. Pick a stlye and stick to it for a few weeks.*

I want to bring more natural hair content directly TO YOU! Let me know your thoughts, questions, and frustrations about your hair! Have you tried any growth challenges? How did they work for you? Feel free to comment below, like, share and subscribe!

Let My People Go | BCF National Conference 2018

This is my third time blogging about my experience at Bethel Campus Fellowship's National Conference (To read posts on BCF from years past, click here!). To be honest, it gets harder and harder to write about BCF each time. I find it difficult to adequately capture all that I saw, experienced, heard... and put it into words that won't water it down. It's tough but here we go! 

BCF ... What is That? 

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

If you haven't heard of BCF, where've you been? Lol. BCF, which stands for Bethel Campus Fellowship, is an interdenominational organization established to proclaim the Lordship of Jesus Christ all over college and high school campuses. With a mission of "leading students to Christ and preparing them to become reliable men and women that God can entrust with His word for the next generation," BCF has given many students a space to accept Jesus Christ, grow in their faith, and continue the cycle by sharing the Gospel. 

For more Info on BCF, visit their website http://bethelcampusfellowship.org

Imagine a room full of millennials – different races, ethnicities, sizes, styles bound by one thing, FIRE for JESUS – Worshipping, crying out their hearts, and leaving it all at the altar. Man... I think that's as close as to heaven as one can get while being alive. 

The Power of Community 

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

When I graduated from UGA, I shared a bit of my testimony and how BCF impacted my walk with Christ (read here). When I think of BCF and National Conference, I am reminded of the community (read: family) of believers that I am blessed with. These aren't 50 year old pastors laying hands and praying. These are students that were studying and taking exams before they left for conference. They are students that understand all too well the daily challenges and pressures of being a millennial in today's world. These are the giants in the Spirit planting seeds everywhere they go. These are Prayer Warriors, Levites (Numbers 18), and so much more.

To be honest, I have never heard of anyone attending a BCF conference and 1) not leaving radically changed and/or 2) being inspired to press deeper into their walk.

"Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." 1st Timothy 4: 12

We remember our Creator in the days of our youth (Ecc 4:12) , and we wouldn't want it any other way! 

For the Audience of One

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

Mark Abere, The Golden Impression Photography

All that took place at National Conference was for an audience of ONE, Jesus Christ. As I type this, I smile knowing that Jesus was pleased with the outpouring of love for Him that took on the Black Mountains of Asheville, NC. Today, I challenge all of us to live in a way that would please Jesus. 

I literally want EVERYONE to experience Bethel Campus Fellowship's National Conference! If you are interested, check out their site here,  http://bethelcampusfellowship.org, and let me know!

You've read enough! Catch the live conference recordings! 

Bethel Campus Fellowship National Conference 2018 #LETMYPEOPLEGO Hosted in Ridgecrest, North Carolina