The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve noticed the impact of social media on how my generation (myself included) views relationships, love, courting, and marriage. “#Goals” and heart emojis have been plastered across every Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat post.
It seems as though we live a life full of waiting– waiting for the next big news of who’s dating, engaged, and expecting; waiting for it to be our turn; waiting for the moment we get to post a photo of a significant other, awaiting the compliments to follow from various followers.
But when did we get like this? When did we become a generation so entangled in finding love rather than pursuing dreams and personal goals? I have to gently remind myself that as I reach the tender age of 22, it is somewhat natural to begin thinking more about a future.
Many of friends are in the same boat, often wondering what’s the next big step for them. School and good grades? Check. Good job? Check. Let’s be honest… with sites like BellaNaijaWeddings and BuzzFeed constantly showing us the latest engagement rings, it’s tough to not be…well…pressed lol.
Pressed- "Obsessed or attuned to a particular thing, idea, or person to an unseemly degree"
Love is an amazing process. I believe it mirrors God’s love for us, a love that is quite patient in everything. Let’s remember that we’re young adults growing and figuring out the world. Be as happy as you want for anyone you see online! However, never let that cause you to rush your own personal love life. With every new wedding hashtag, I can guarantee you there’s a young adult trying to figure out how and when their time and “bae” will be coming.
"God hears and sees you. He knows your deepest desires, and wants to fulfill them. But sometimes we just have to be patient."
-Chloe M. Gooden
Don’t worry. He or she will come. In the mean time, what have you always wanted to do? Create a bucket list, pick up a new hobby, go to places you’ve never gone before! Most importantly, spend time with your Creator. He loves a love so fierce, so deep, so unfathomable. In fact, that is a love worth being pressed about.